Counseling

Individual Counseling

It's not what I want from the client It's what the client wants from their life. We work together to best obtain that goal.

The client does the work. I provide the guidance and teach the skills that enable the client to become more independent, self-reliant and self-confident.

The sessions are designed to enable a responsible approach to everyday situations as well as skills for dealing with some of the more extreme challenges the individual may encounter in their environment.

Payment is arranged depending on location and means to pay for services.

Group Counseling

Group counseling can be formed to assist in healing the effects of a crisis that affects a particular group of individuals.

An incident or crisis in a family, at work, at school; these are times when group counseling would be required.

Also, if a family, or team, employees wanted to improve their interpersonal communication skills, with one another, a series of group counseling sessions would assist to that end.

A series of group sessions to guide the individuals towards more constructuctive communication skills and improved interaction in everyday life.

Couples/Relationship Counseling

Relationship Counseling
Despite how much we think we know the other person, there comes a time when we realize we need to know more about how to work within the relationship we have with that person.

We see that our communications skills are not what they should be. Patterns of anger and/or disappointment emerge or become more frequent.

We are growing at different speeds and differences are developing. One is feeling threatened, the other is feeling pushed or left behind.

An event or crisis triggers feelings, emotions, moods and discomforts that we cannot fully understand or explain.
Time to get a “tune-up”. Gain insights and methods for approaching the situation so that we don’t become destructive to one another.

Counseling can give the guidance and the tools with which to continue shaping and working the relationship in a constructive direction.

Endings

Okay, either it is too late, too much has happened or the relationship is beyond salvage as a unit. You are splitting up.
There are difficulties in this phase that are most difficult to deal with. Hurt, loss, betrayal, grief over what is no more… all can take a toll on our health and outlook.

Counseling to make the closure more healthy for all parties is best. But in any case, even if only one of you is willing to work on that part, it is healthier than just thrashing through the process of separating and moving on.

A sense of who we are outside of the relationship needs to be formed or reformed. A more realistic and objective outlook on who we are, and who our partner was then and is now and how we got here is important. More important, however, is where we are going from here.

Letting go is difficult on so many levels because we often don’t even realize what it is we are holding onto nor why.
A guided examination of these emotions, responses and work on creating and living with a healthier, more constructive approach is key to healing up from what is lost and preparing for better days to come.

It is especially important for parents who are divorcing to treat one another with as much respect and fairness as possible. The children will survive much healthier if they can find understanding in both parents rather than anger, abuse, or being made to “choose” between one parent and the other.

No relationship is perfect and no breakup is fun. But it doesn’t have to be the ongoing disaster of anger, revenge, and victimhood. It can become a constructive turning point in life, if we are willing to work at it.